Friday, February 12, 2010
Judgmental or discerning?
So, there's this guy in my worship ministry at the church who only shows up when he is asked to drum. He makes no effort to develop relationship with anyone else there, he leaves early from rehearsals, and he responds in very immature ways when I try to address my concern with this trend. The other day he said to me, "Am I still allowed to drum if I haven't been to church in a while?" and I didn't really know how to respond. I told him no, he is welcome to drum, but he is still encouraged to build relationships, to make Living Water his home church, to "plug in" further, to grow alongside the rest of the "family" there at the church. My questions is this- am I being judgmental because I want him to actually act like he cares about people and not just drumming? Is it reasonable to assume that if he is going to be helping to lead others in worship, there would be obvious evidence of spiritual growth and compassion towards others in his life? And where do I draw the line and say he can't join us anymore when he's asked to drum...? Tough one. He obvious thinks I'm a judgmental prick, but all I'm really trying to do is my job.
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God sees what we cannot. This punk kid's growth may not be obvious to us (indeed there may or may not be any growth happening) but he still comes.
I think of my favorite scene in Fiddler on the Roof... Chava and Fyedka come to say good-bye to her family... I think you know the story, but Chava, a Jew, married Fyekda, a Catholic. Chava, essentially, becomes "dead" to her family because she rejected their faith marrying an "outsider". Anyways, they come to say good-bye because the Jews are being forced out of their homes. Chava's sisters try and tell Chava it's no use talking to her father. I think it's Tzeitel that says "He won't listen". Chava responds "but at least he will hear".
He may not be listening... but at least he is hearing.
If you've laid out clear requirements to each member of the worship team (signed contracts, etc) that he is clearly violating, then you could try approaching him that way. Sounds like he just needs love, though. His questions seem like he's wanting to push buttons... probably for a reason, even if he doesn't realize it.
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